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Northern State Mental Hospital
Northern State Mental Hospital.
  • The Eastern State Penitentiary in Philadelphia, now a museum, is said to be haunted by ex-inmates.
  • A shuttered psychiatric facility in Washington is said to be haunted by former patients.
  • NBA players have reported seeing ghosts at the Skirvin Hotel in Oklahoma City.

From homes and hotels to churches, theaters, and cemeteries, there’s no shortage of supposedly haunted places across the United States.

Nearly every state has its own eerie legends — stories of restless spirits, mysterious footsteps in empty hallways, and unexplained flickering lights that locals swear attest to these spots being haunted by spirits.

Many of these sites are also steeped in history, with tragic pasts or notorious events.

We examined local legends and historic sites to determine the most reportedly haunted locations in every state, with many having reported ghost sightings, strange occurrences, or bloody histories. 

Whether you believe in ghosts or just love a good scare, these haunted places across the US have earned spooky reputations.

ALABAMA: Sloss Furnaces, Birmingham
Sloss Furnaces in Alabama.
Sloss Furnaces is reportedly haunted.

The Sloss Furnaces are now a historic national landmark, but in the late 19th century, they produced iron, which was then turned into steel.

James “Slag” Wormwood was the boss at the furnaces, and it’s said that he subjected his employees to some inhumane working conditions.

Labor laws didn’t exist at the time, and temperatures in the furnaces often reached above 100 degrees. A total of 47 men died with Wormwood as their boss, and even Wormwood himself lost his life in the furnaces when he slipped and fell into the iron ore, causing his body to melt, Travel South USA reported.

Wormwood and his workers are believed to haunt the furnaces to this day.

ALASKA: Kennecott
Kennecott alaska

Kennecott is a remote Alaskan town that’s been mostly abandoned since 1950.

The town was a hub for copper mining from 1911 to 1938, but after the area’s copper supply was diminished, Kennecott’s population dwindled.

Today, many rickety wooden buildings still stand in Kennecott, and many people believe that they are haunted by former miners and railroad workers, the Anchorage Daily News reported.

ARIZONA: Lost Dutchman State Park, Apache Junction
A rainbow over Lost Dutchman State Park
Lost Dutchman State Park

The Lost Dutchman gold mine is believed to be situated in a state park in Apache Junction, Arizona, although its exact location is unclear.

The park is said to be haunted by the spirits of people who died over the years searching for the mine, the Phoenix New Times reported.

ARKANSAS: Crescent Hotel, Eureka Springs
Crescent Hotel Arkansas
Crescent Hotel in Arkansas.

The Crescent Hotel in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, takes pride in its reputation as a haunted hotel.

Guests can participate in ghost tours and potentially catch a glimpse of several ghosts who reportedly frequent the property, including one who’s known as “the girl in the mist.”

CALIFORNIA: Bodie
Abandoned buildings in bodie, california
Bodie, CA

According to the California Department of Parks and Recreation, Bodie, California, is a ghost town turned state park that offers a taste of life during the gold rush of the late 1800s.

Many homes and other buildings are still standing in the town today. Some people believe that the town is haunted by former residents, Legends of America reported.

COLORADO: St. Elmo
st elmo colorado

St. Elmo, Colorado, was a thriving mining town in the late 1800s, though it was abandoned as soon as the mines in the area shut down, History Colorado reported.

The ghost town has been well-maintained, allowing visitors to get a sense of life in the late 19th century. They might even catch a glimpse of ghosts of former residents.

There’s a particularly popular ghost story about Annabelle Stark, a woman from St. Elmo who is said to have continued living there even after the town was entirely abandoned.

CONNECTICUT: Old Newgate Prison, East Granby
Old Newgate Prison
The remains of Old Newgate Prison.

Connecticut History reported that the Old Newgate Prison was the first prison in the state of Connecticut, operating from 1773 to 1827. Most notably, it used to hold prisoners of war during the Revolutionary War.

Many people believe that the site is haunted by soldiers and prisoners who died while trying to escape from the prison. 

DELAWARE: Fort Delaware, Delaware City
Fort Delaware

Fort Delaware is situated on its own island, accessible only by ferry. It was built as a Union fortress during the Civil War and was later used as a prison for Confederate soldiers.

Many prisoners died while held captive, and their ghosts are believed to haunt the property today, the Delaware News Journal reported.

FLORIDA: Old St. Johns County Jail, St. Augustine
Old St. Johns County Jail
Old St. Johns County Jail.

The Old St. Johns County Jail no longer houses inmates, although the spirits of many of St. Augustine’s violent criminals reportedly still haunt the historic jail.

The jail is now a museum, and visitors can go on nighttime “Old Jail After Dark” tours to try to spot the ghosts for themselves. 

GEORGIA: Lucas Theatre, Savannah
lucas theater georgia

Aside from being a beautiful Southern city with tons of history, Savannah, Georgia, is also said to be haunted.

The Lucas Theatre is just one of the city’s haunted locales.

According to a local tour company, visitors to the historic theater have reported ghost sightings, including shadowy figures and sounds of applause, even when there’s no one around.

HAWAII: ‘Iolani Palace, Honolulu
Iolani Palace Hawaii

The ‘Iolani Palace was once home to Hawaii’s royalty, although today it serves as a museum of Hawaiian history.

Queen Lili’uokalani and other Hawaiian royals are said to haunt the palace. One room in the museum is notorious for supernatural activity — visitors have reported hearing mysterious music and chanting, Honolulu Magazine reported.

IDAHO: Old Idaho Penitentiary, Boise
old idaho penitentiary
Old Idaho State Penitentiary in Boise, Idaho.

According to the Idaho State Historical Society, the Old Idaho Penitentiary housed some of the area’s most dangerous criminals for over 100 years until it closed in 1973.

Visitors can now explore the expansive property in Boise, including jail cells that are reportedly haunted by former inmates.

ILLINOIS: Congress Plaza Hotel, Chicago
The Congress Plaza Hotel
The Congress Plaza Hotel.

The Congress Plaza Hotel in Chicago, Illinois, has almost too many ghost stories to count. The hotel was built for the World’s Fair in 1893, and there have been tales of paranormal activity ever since.

For example, the serial killer H.H. Holmes is said to have lured his victims to the hotel. Hotel guests have also reported seeing the ghosts of Al Capone and a ghost called Peg Leg Johnny around the property, Choose Chicago reported.

And if all that isn’t spooky enough, the hotel is reportedly the inspiration behind Stephen King’s short story, “1408.”

INDIANA: Indiana Medical History Museum, Indianapolis
indiana medical history museum

The Indiana Medical History Museum is situated in the oldest surviving pathology building in the United States. It is also said to be haunted by the spirits of former patients of Central State Hospital.

The museum, located in Indianapolis, is home to recreations of amphitheaters and laboratories that were once used by the hospital, which treated a variety of different mental-health-related illnesses from 1848 until the late 1990s, according to the museum.

IOWA: Villisca Ax Murder House, Villisca, Iowa
Villisca Ax Murder House

According to the house’s official website, six members of the Moore family plus two houseguests were brutally killed by an ax murderer who was never identified on June 10, 1912. Their restless spirits are said to still haunt the grounds.

Guests can visit the house during the daytime, but to experience it in its full creepiness, you can make a reservation to spend the night.

KANSAS: Stull Cemetery, Stull
Stull Cemetery Kansas

A haunted cemetery? No surprise there. However, Stull Cemetery in Kansas is known to be particularly spooky. 

The cemetery is located in a tiny, nearly abandoned town outside of Lawrence. It has reportedly been the site of witchcraft and other supernatural activity over the years.

KENTUCKY: Waverly Hills Sanatorium, Louisville
Waverly Hills Sanatorium

The Waverly Hills Sanatorium started as a one-room schoolhouse in the late 1800s. The Board of Tuberculosis Hospital later purchased the land and built the sanatorium, which opened in 1910 as a small quarantine for tuberculosis patients.

The large building that now sits abandoned was built in 1926 in response to the need for a larger facility; the sanatorium could house over 400 patients, according to its website.

Waverly Hills was its own community, complete with a ZIP code, post office, and water treatment facility. Everyone in the sanatorium — patients, nurses, doctors — was cut off from the outside world. It closed in 1961 after the discovery of an antibiotic that cured tuberculosis.

However, it’s believed that some patients never left and still haunt the grounds. Visitors can participate in ghost tours on the hospital grounds during the fall season.

LOUISIANA: St. Louis Cemetery No. 1, New Orleans
St. Louis Cemetery No. 1 new orleans
St. Louis Cemetery No. 1 in New Orleans, Louisiana.

One of the most notable people buried at the St. Louis Cemetery No. 1 in New Orleans is Marie Laveau, a voodoo priestess who died in 1881, according to the New Orleans Historical Society.

Given her unique profession, many people believe Laveau’s spirit remains present in the cemetery to this day.

Atlas Obscura reported that actor Nicolas Cage bought a burial tomb in the cemetery, so there’s no telling about the cemetery’s haunted future.

MAINE: Wood Island Lighthouse, Saco
wood island lighthouse

The Wood Island Lighthouse is one of the many beautiful lighthouses on Maine’s coastline. It differs, however, in that it’s said to be haunted.

In fact, the television show “Ghost Hunters” visited the lighthouse in 2006 to investigate paranormal activity in the area, according to the official Wood Island Lighthouse website.

MARYLAND: Antietam National Battlefield, Washington County
Antietam Battlefield
Antietam Battlefield.

Many people visit the Antietam National Battlefield in Washington County, Maryland, to learn about the history of the Civil War.

However, others visit to explore the supernatural activity at the site of the bloodiest battle of the Civil War.

Given the site’s history, it’s understandable why many people believe the battlefield is full of spirits. The area is said to be haunted by the ghosts of the soldiers who were killed there in 1862, the Akron Beacon Journal reported.

MASSACHUSETTS: The Mount, Lenox
The Mount
The decorative study room inside The Mount historic museum that is a country house in Lenox, Massachusetts.

The Mount in Lenox, Massachusetts, is a historic estate that was once home to the writer Edith Wharton. Aside from being a beautifully restored architectural masterpiece, the estate also has a haunted history.

When she was alive, Wharton herself often wrote about ghosts, so it’s no surprise that her former home may be haunted.

Visitors can see for themselves on one of the ghost tours that the estate sponsors, both online and hopefully in person later this season. 

MICHIGAN: Detroit Masonic Temple, Detroit
detroit masonic temple

From cold spots and doors slamming to odd shadows, the Detroit Masonic Temple reportedly has it all.

One ghost, in particular, that is said to haunt the 1,037-room building is that of George D. Mason, one of its architects, according to the Detroit Historical Society.

However, while legend goes that Mason, distraught over financial losses and the death of his wife, died by suicide by jumping off the top of the 210-foot building, the historical society says this isn’t true. 

“While the story makes for great Halloween horror tale, it is not true,” the Detroit Historical Society states on its website. “George Mason died in 1948 at 91 years old in his home in the Wilshire Apartment building on Grand Boulevard.”

MINNESOTA: Fitzgerald Theater, St. Paul
Fitzgerald Theater
Fitzgerald Theater.

The Fitzgerald Theater in St. Paul, Minnesota, is the oldest surviving theater in the city, and its rich history is accompanied by some ghost stories.

The theater is perhaps best known for its production of Garrison Keillor’s variety show, “A Prairie Home Companion,” which began in 1974.

Over the years, visitors to the theater have reported sightings of a ghost named Ben, who apparently used to work on the site as a stagehand, Minnesota Haunted Houses reported.

MISSISSIPPI: King’s Tavern, Natchez
King’s Tavern

King’s Tavern in Natchez, Mississippi, is now permanently closed, although it once had many stories to accompany its hundreds of years of history, including some that involve ghosts.

According to one blog, the ghost of the mistress of the tavern’s first owner — who is said to have been murdered there — reportedly haunted the restaurant.

MISSOURI: Governor’s Mansion, Jefferson City
Missouri Governor's Mansion
Missouri Governor’s Mansion.

The Governor’s Mansion in Jefferson City, Missouri, is one of the state’s most beautiful historic buildings, dating back to 1871.

In 1882, the governor’s family experienced a tragedy when their 9-year-old daughter, Carrie, died from diphtheria.

Years later, a construction worker who was renovating the mansion reported seeing a young girl playing in the attic, the News Tribune reported in 2014.

Some people believe that he saw the ghost of Carrie.

MONTANA: Daly Mansion, Hamilton
daly mansion

Now a popular wedding and event venue, the Daly Mansion has a reportedly haunted history.

Over the years, the staff at the estate have reported occurrences of paranormal activity, including a gold picture frame that is frequently found removed from the wall and placed on the ground, the Billings Gazette reported.

NEBRASKA: Ball Cemetery, Springfield
Tombstones In Cemetery (file photo).
Tombstones In Cemetery (file photo).

With gravestones in Ball Cemetery dating back to the late 1860s, this historic cemetery is one of the oldest in the state.

Multiple spirits have reportedly been sighted here, including a tall, angry man who has been seen kicking over gravestones and a woman named Mary Mumford, who is said to tug at visitors’ clothes, according to Nebraska Haunted Houses.

NEVADA: Bowers Mansion, Washoe City
bowers mansion
Bowers Mansion.

The Bowers Mansion is a stately home in Washoe City, Nevada, with a spooky history.

The home once belonged to local millionaires Eilley and Sandy Bowers, and, as legend has it, after Sandy died, his wife held seances to try to conjure his spirit, Nevada Ghost Towns and Beyond reported.

It’s unclear if she was ever able to get through to her husband, although visitors report seeing mysterious figures around the property to this day. 

NEW HAMPSHIRE: Alton Town Hall, Alton
alton town hall

This historic government building in Alton, New Hampshire, is not only a beautiful landmark but also the site of reported paranormal activity, as New Hampshire Magazine reported in 2020.

Locals have reported seeing furniture that moves, doors that open and close on their own, and hearing mysterious voices. 

NEW JERSEY: Pine Barrens
Pine Barrens
Forests of the New Jersey Pine Barrens.

The Pine Barrens in New Jersey are one of the state’s spookiest locations.

Condé Nast Traveler reported that the forest spans seven counties and is home to numerous ghost towns.

During the colonial era, the area was bustling with sawmills, paper mills, and towns to accompany them; however, these industries were all abandoned when coal was discovered in Pennsylvania.

The Philadelphia Inquirer reported that it’s also said to be home to the infamous Jersey Devil, a beast that the Pinelands Preservation Alliance describes as “a kangaroo-like creature with the face of a horse, the head of a dog, bat-like wings, horns, and a tail.”

NEW MEXICO: The Luna Mansion, Los Lunas
luna mansion in New Mexico
Luna Mansion in New Mexico

The Luna Mansion was a beautiful estate turned restaurant near Albuquerque, New Mexico, that is now permanently closed.

Visitors reported seeing ghosts from the estate’s past, including a woman named Josefina, who was the home’s interior decorator.

Legends of America reported that one sighting included a rocking chair — placed under her portrait — rocking without anyone in it.

“I hear things,” general manager Farid Himeur told KOAT in 2017. “I see things that aren’t supposed to happen.”

NEW YORK: Letchworth Village, Thiells
Letchworth Village
Abandoned building from Letchworth Village.

Letchworth Village is a former psychiatric hospital that has fallen into a state of complete disrepair, Hudson Valley Magazine reported in 2020.

Located in Thiells, New York, the campus spans 2,000 acres and features various medical buildings, dormitories, and a synagogue.

Like many hospitals and institutions, Letchworth Village is allegedly haunted by the spirits of former patients, and was even featured on the Travel Channel’s popular series “Ghost Adventures.”

NORTH CAROLINA: Cape Hatteras Lighthouse, Hatteras Island
cape hatteras lighthouse

The Cape Hatteras lighthouse is an iconic fixture on the North Carolina coastline, said to be haunted by a woman named Theodosia Burr, according to a local travel website.

Burr, the daughter of Founding Father Aaron Burr and a character mentioned in the hit musical “Hamilton,” was killed in a shipwreck in 1812.

She is believed to haunt the lighthouse and the surrounding shore.

NORTH DAKOTA: Fort Abraham Lincoln, Mandan
Fort Abraham Lincoln
Fort Abraham Lincoln.

Fort Abraham Lincoln’s history dates back to 1872.

George Armstrong Custer, a lieutenant colonel in the Union Army during the Civil War, built the fort but died just four years after its completion. 

People who visit the fort today have reported seeing the ghost of Custer and his wife on the property, local news station KX News.

OHIO: Moonville Tunnel, Vinton County
Moonville Tunnel
Entrance of the Moonville Tunnel.

Now overgrown and covered in graffiti, the Moonville Tunnel is a favorite spot among urban explorers and ghost hunters in Ohio.

The tunnel was once used by the local railroad, although it has been in disrepair for years. According to a local legend, some of the ghosts that haunt the tunnel include an old engineer and a railway brakeman.

OKLAHOMA: The Skirvin Hotel, Oklahoma City
The Skirvin Hilton Oklahoma City
This hotel is a unique landmark in Oklahoma City’s skyline.

The unique architecture of the Skirvin Hilton Hotel, which dates back to 1911, is striking. The hotel reportedly even offered a private room where guests could drink alcohol during Prohibition, Historic Hotels of America reported.

Opposing NBA teams often stay at the Skirvin Hilton Hotel when they visit the city to play the Oklahoma City Thunder. Over the years, many players have reported ghost sightings, specifically of a woman named Effie who died at the hotel, The New York Times reported.

OREGON: The Shanghai Tunnels, Portland
Shanghai Tunnels
A stairway to the Shanghai Tunnels.

Travel Portland reported that the Shanghai Tunnels in Portland get their name from the practice of kidnapping and selling men as workers on ships headed to East Asia.

Restless, agitated spirits of men who were drugged and trafficked in the city’s ports during the early 19th century are said to haunt the underground tunnels through which they were reportedly sold.

Legend has it that the local saloons had entrances to the tunnels, enabling swindlers to prey on unsuspecting patrons and bring them directly underground before they even knew what was happening.

Visitors can take walking tours to learn more about the dark history of the tunnels.

PENNSYLVANIA: Eastern State Penitentiary, Philadelphia
eastern state penitentiary

During its heyday, Eastern State Penitentiary was one of the most expensive and well-known prisons in the world. According to the official Eastern State Penitentiary website, it was built in 1829 and housed notable criminals, including Al Capone and the bank robber known as “Slick Willie.”

Up until overcrowding became a problem in 1913, prisoners were kept in complete solitude at all times. Even when prisoners left their cell, a guard would cover their heads so they couldn’t see and no one could see them.

Today, the decaying penitentiary offers ghost tours and a museum. Condé Nast Traveler reported that shadowy figures, laughter, and footsteps have all been reported as paranormal activity within the prison walls.

RHODE ISLAND: The Breakers, Newport
the breakers

The Breakers Mansion is a popular museum for tourists in Newport, Rhode Island, but is said to have paranormal activity.

Alice Vanderbilt, the matriarch of the wealthy Vanderbilt family in the late 19th and early 20th centuries, lived in the mansion for many years after her husband, Cornelius, died.

Her ghost is said to still roam the giant home, Nostalgia Providence reported.

SOUTH CAROLINA: Poinsett Bridge, Greenville
point bridge

Besides bearing the distinction of South Carolina’s oldest bridge, Poinsett is also believed by many to be a particularly spooky spot, Condé Nast Traveler reported.

The bridge, which was built entirely out of stone in 1820, is rumored to be haunted by multiple ghosts.

There’s the story of the mason who died while building the bridge; his body is said to be entombed inside it. There’s also the story of a man who died here in a car accident in the ’50s and an enslaved person who was lynched near the bridge.

SOUTH DAKOTA: The Historic Bullock Hotel, Deadwood
bullock hotel south dakota

The Bullock Hotel in Deadwood, South Dakota, is reportedly haunted by Deadwood’s first Sheriff, Seth Bullock.

According to the hotel’s website, guests and staff have seen items “inexplicably moved by unseen hands,” and showers turn on out of nowhere.

TENNESSEE: The Orpheum Theatre, Memphis
Orpheum Theater
The Orpheum Theater.

The Orpheum Theatre in Memphis has survived bankruptcies, a fire, and a threat of demolition since it opened in 1928, according to the theater’s website.

Furnished with 2,000-pound chandeliers and gold leafing, its stunning interior seats 2,000 people, but there’s also plenty of room for spirits.

A little girl named Mary is one of six ghosts that have been spotted in the theater, according to The Tennessee State Museum. Performers onstage have spotted her in the audience of their shows, and theatergoers have seen her dancing in the lobby.

TEXAS: The Alamo, San Antonio
The Alamo

The Alamo is one of the most iconic monuments in the US.

Given its extensive history, it’s understandable why many people believe the site is haunted.

History buffs interested in paranormal activity can go on ghost tours of the site in hopes of catching a glimpse of the spirits of those who died there during the 1836 Battle of the Alamo. 

UTAH: Fort Douglas Military Museum, Salt Lake City
Fort Douglas Military Museum
Fort Douglas Military Museum.

The Fort Douglas Military Museum was formerly known simply as Fort Douglas. Located near the University of Utah in Salt Lake City, the military fort dates back to 1862.

The Daily Utah Chronicle reported in 2014 that visitors to the museum spoke of sightings of a ghost named Clem, a soldier who died at the fort.

Reports of paranormal activity include seeing a figure in Civil War military garb and people feeling something — or someone — breathing down their necks. 

VERMONT: Emily’s Bridge, Stowe
Emily's Bridge
Emily’s Bridge.

New England is known for its beautiful covered bridges.

However, Emily’s Bridge in Stowe, Vermont, is said to be haunted.

According to the Vermont Historical Society, local legend has it that sometime between 1849 and 1949, a young woman named Emily killed herself on the bridge after she was jilted by her lover.

Local lore holds that her spirit has haunted the area ever since, although the historical society claims there is no evidence to suggest that anyone died at the site.

VIRGINIA: Stonewall Jackson Memorial Cemetery, Lexington
stonewall jackson cemetery

This cemetery is named after Stonewall Jackson, the Confederate general who is buried on the site.

Located in Lexington, Virginia, the cemetery is said to be haunted by Jackson and other Civil War soldiers, according to the official Visit Virginia website.

WASHINGTON: Northern State Mental Hospital, Sedro-Woolley
Northern State Mental Hospital
Northern State Mental Hospital.

Located in northern Washington, this former hospital was once a fully self-sustaining psychiatric facility.

The Northern State Mental Hospital operated from 1912 to 1976, and although it has been closed for many years, many buildings on the property still stand today.

It’s said that thousands of patients may have died here, and a graveyard behind the old gymnasium has many unmarked graves.

However, the Seattle Times reported in 2023 that two never-before-released death registers contain information on patients who died at Northern State Hospital between 1911 and 1963.

Some of the hospital’s expansive property now operates as a recreational area, although it’s said to be haunted by former patients. 

WEST VIRGINIA: Trans-Allegheny Lunatic Asylum, Weston
Trans Allegheny Lunatic Asylum West Virginia

Originally built as a place of healing, the Trans-Allegheny Lunatic Asylum welcomed its first patients in 1864.

According to the hospital’s official website, it hit its peak in 1950 when the psychiatric hospital was home to 2,400 patients, many of whom endured lobotomies and electroshock therapy.

Mental health reforms and the building’s poor condition led to the hospital’s closure in 1994. However, many patients died there during the facility’s 130 years of operation. Some are believed to haunt the building’s halls, which is why it attracts visitors and ghost hunters.

Visitors interested in scoping out paranormal activity can participate in ghost tours on the site.

WISCONSIN: The Pfister Hotel, Milwaukee
Pfister Hotel
The interior of the famous Pfister Hotel in downtown Milwaukee.

The Pfister Hotel is popular among professional athletes who visit Milwaukee for games, although the hotel’s haunted history has made many guests skeptical about staying there.

Guests have reported hearing mysterious knocking sounds and voices.

The Los Angeles Times reported in 2005 that Adrián Beltré of the Los Angeles Dodgers, for example, reported that he couldn’t sleep during his stay at the Pfister because of all the strange noises. 

WYOMING: The Historic Occidental Hotel, Buffalo
The Occidental Hotel

A stay at the Historic Occidental Hotel in Buffalo, Wyoming, is like taking a step back in time to the Old West.

Famous figures from the era, like Butch Cassidy, Calamity Jane, Buffalo Bill, and even President Theodore Roosevelt, have visited the hotel over the years.

Given the hotel’s rich history, it’s no surprise that some people believe it is haunted by former guests, and it was even featured on the Travel Channel’s “Dead Files.”

Madeline Diamond contributed to an earlier version of this story.

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We moved to Spain before having kids. It was the best thing we did for our marriage.

Couple at apartment balcony
The author and her husband moved to Spain after getting married.
  • After getting married and before having four kids, my husband and I lived in Spain for a year.
  • Being away from everyone we knew pushed us to lean on each other.
  • I’m thankful we got to explore the world a little bit before becoming parents.

Every Wednesday, I pedaled downtown Madrid to my Spanish immersion class, pulling out my travel coffee mug as I sat next to friends from Russia and Thailand to practice our mediocre “¿Cuánto cuesta?” together. On Sundays, we traipsed through the booths at El Rastro, a flea market filled with colorful scarves and discount underwear.

After our wedding (and before we had four kids), my husband and I quit our jobs and moved to Spain for a year. He took a contract teaching position at a local middle school, allowing us to get a visa and a flat. I wrote remotely for companies in the US and Australia.

During that year, I enjoyed churros in piazzas and shopping along the Douro River in Portugal, but I had no idea how thankful I’d be that we explored the world before raising a family.

We learned to rely on each other

Navigating life 4,000 miles from everyone we knew pushed us to lean on each other in deep ways early in our marriage.

When we arrived in Madrid, finding a landlord who would rent to expats for a year proved challenging. At one point, we found a place, but needed to put down a deposit within a few hours. Instead, I found myself screaming at an ATM because my international debit card didn’t work. Joe then took the lead on apartment-hunting — his Spanish skills far better than mine — and found us a spot near the Madrid Rio. I had to trust him, and he pulled through, like he always does.

Couple in Madrid
The couple learned to rely on each other away from family.

When we hiked El Camino de Santiago, a bee sting inflamed Joe’s leg, and he couldn’t carry his pack anymore. It was up to me to lug all our clothes, snacks, and toiletries on my back as we traveled from hostel to hostel.

Living abroad created a foundation of trust and problem-solving. We fall back on those skills when we’re up at night with kids, or have a blowout in public with no diaper bag in sight. We learned and practiced how to get through anything together.

Living our dreams gave us a spark

On long weekends and school breaks, we traveled across Europe: flights were cheap to Greece, Ireland, and Poland. We bounced to southern France to hike the Pyrenees, to Dublin to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day, to Lithuania to ride horses and sip vodka with Joe’s extended family. In Greece, we sampled cheese with the factory workers, explored pristine beaches, and wandered through the Acropolis.

Couple in Greece
The couple got to travel throughout Europe before having kids.

With no kids and no major responsibilities, we skipped to our own beat and took advantage of seeing every bit of Europe we could on our budget. The adventures together formed a sense of pure joy and lightheartedness in our marriage. We could literally see the world. It planted a seed that we could indeed live large, chase our dreams, and design a life we wanted.

We focused on us and our priorities

In a fresh environment, away from family, friends, and US culture, we could listen to what was important to us — not everyone else. We had space to carve out our priorities, like a more relaxed daily pace, a strong community, and traveling to places that filled our souls. We imagined what could be different for our lives and what we truly care about, both now and in the future.

At least two dozen strangers have told me, “It goes by fast” and “Don’t blink” about the younger years with my kids. And I agree with them. But marriage goes fast too — the years with my husband aren’t eternal. Each month we don’t go on a date, is a month I miss out on being with him. This is the only life we have with our spouses, too, and as the years slip by, I become more grateful that we got to have those wonder years together before the kids were born.

Traveling with kids is more complex

We hope to take our kids abroad someday — possibly living there for a year or two. For now, though, with four young kids, it’s difficult to make that happen. The logistics of naps, meals, school, work, and expenses are more challenging as a family of six than it was for just the two of us.

We still hold onto that dream and continue to plot when it might make sense to travel based on the kids’ ages.

For now, I’ve printed large-sized photos of our travels and placed them in frames on our living room wall. The memories serve as a foundation of our love, our dreams, and our connection, even on the busiest days of parenting. Because right now, we have some beautiful things happening right in our own house, too.

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Sequoia partner Jess Lee shares the system she uses to evaluate employees

Jess Lee
Polyvore CEO Jess Lee
  • Sequoia partner Jess Lee shared some tips for evaluating partners and employees.
  • Lee said her system measures someone’s emotional, intellectual, political, and judgmental ability.
  • No one is good at all of them, she said, so it’s all about finding people who complement each other.

The world’s top leaders often say they can read people better than anyone else — a trait that has long intrigued psychologists and management experts.

Some call it an art, others say it’s a science.

Sequoia partner Jess Lee — a Silicon Valley veteran who previously worked at Google and Yahoo, and founded the e-commerce company Polyvore, which Yahoo acquired for $200 million in 2015 — shared some of her secrets on a recent episode of “The Library of Minds” podcast.

Lee said she now relies on a process to evaluate workers beyond quantifiable metrics, which she learned from her Sequoia colleague Shawn Maguire. He told her there are four components he uses to evaluate people’s capabilities.

“It’s this framework of EQ and IQ, which everyone knows, emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence,” she said. “Then he added PQ, political quotient, and JQ, judgment quotient.”

EQ, or emotional quotient, measures how good someone is with people one-on-one, she said. It measures emotional intelligence, social skills, and empathy. IQ, or intellectual quotient, measures someone’s problem-solving skills and logic. These are both well-known metrics in business and other fields.

PQ, or political quotient, meanwhile, measures how good someone is at interacting with systems of people that govern things, she said. The judgment quotient measures an individual’s decision-making capabilities.

Lee said no one is good at all of these things. It’s possible to have a high EQ but a low PQ within a given organization, she said. A person can be technically competent but struggle to assess where to apply their skills to maximize their long-term success.

“I look for very spiky people who complement each other,” she said.

Some of what she learned about evaluating people came from her father, who worked for Li Ka-shing, a Hong Kong tycoon whose net worth tops $41 billion, according to Forbes.

Her father’s work stories always revolved around people, Lee said.

“He kind of taught me that all problems are people problems. All solutions are people problems,” she said.

Even now, the “primary lens” she uses to “view the world, to figure out teams, to invest” is through people, she said.

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After giving birth, I was too focused on getting my pre-baby body back. I regret not being more focused on my son.

The author, shown on a beach with her son at 6-months old.
The author, shown with her son when he was 6-moths old, said she now thinks she was too focused on losing the weight she gained during pregnancy after her son was born.
  • After I gave birth, I weighed 80 pounds more than I did before I got pregnant.
  • I quickly became fixated on exercising and the food I was eating.
  • Looking back, I know my weight-loss goals distracted me from enjoying time with my newborn.

I gained exactly 100 pounds during my pregnancy. Between indulging in every craving, stress eating, and being on bed rest at the end, I didn’t stand a chance.

I was surprised by the amount of additional weight I still had on me after giving birth. During my pregnancy, I could tell I was gaining weight, but I really thought the majority of it was what they call “baby weight.” People told me to eat anything I wanted, and I did.

I ended up having 80 pounds left of baby weight after giving birth. I felt completely overwhelmed by that.

Before my pregnancy, I maintained the same weight for many years, never really fluctuating by more than ten pounds, give or take. If my pants started getting tight, I would exercise more and watch what I ate until my pants felt good again. Committing to losing 10 pounds is a lot different from wanting to lose 80, so my approach became an obsessive panic over losing the weight.

I started with walking and eating healthier, but I took it too far

Since I had a C-section, I was in a lot of pain, but the nurses told me the best thing I could do to recover was walk. So that’s what I did, and I really committed to it. I would take my son in his stroller and my dog for at least two to three long walks a day, covering about two miles each time, which is significant while you are still recovering.

At home, if I had to go up or down the stairs for something, I would walk up and down the stairs a few extra times to burn a few more calories. The more exasperated I became with my weight gain, the more I found ways to over-exercise.

I also became fixated on finding ways to eat fewer calories by eating mostly vegetables and lean protein. My favorite lunches at the time were tuna on crackers and black bean soup. For dinner, I often ate cabbage “steak” with Sriracha.

Looking back, I know now that I was putting an unnecessary amount of pressure on myself and rushing my weight loss in an emotionally and physically unhealthy way. At the time, I was in a rush to feel like myself again.

The author poses with her son when he was 10 months old.
The author, shown here with her son when he was 10 months old, regrets being focused on losing weight after he was born.

The pressure I put on myself was a distraction from my baby

I wish that I had been more solely focused on enjoying my son as an infant instead of putting so much effort into dieting and exercise. A more self-loving version of myself would have been forgiving in regard to the weight gain and just allowed the weight to come off in time.

Thinking back, I often wonder if I had just embraced playing with my son all day, then that might have been enough activity to help me lose the weight. While it would have likely taken longer, I would have had a huge stressor removed from my life, which I imagine would have helped me out a lot as a new mom.

I simply should have taken better care of my body during my pregnancy

For a long time, I thought about having another baby and doing everything the right way the second time around, such as maintaining my normal healthy habits of daily movement and balanced meals during my pregnancy. If I could do it all over again, that’s what I would do.

Ultimately, the effect my pregnancy weight gain had on me negatively affected my early days of motherhood. On top of the normal emotions and exhaustion from life with a newborn, I was beating myself up for letting my body go, and then I punished myself with an aggressive approach to weight loss.

I should have been celebrating my body for giving me my son and focusing on soaking up every moment with him.

By the time my son was 2, I had lost most of the weight

I was mostly happy with my body and with myself for working so hard to lose the weight, but once I met my goal and wasn’t worrying so much about it, I started to see what I had missed out on. By the time I felt okay enough with my body, my son wasn’t a baby anymore. I took the realization as a lesson and began to run around more with my son more and make cupcakes and other baked treats with him on the weekends.

My relationship with exercise and food eventually returned to my pre-pregnancy levels again, and it gave me the time and energy to appreciate my son. He really did grow up so fast, and I’m sorry that I didn’t realize enjoying him as a baby was the most important thing at the time.

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Bruce Springsteen’s wife Patti Scialfa has been his bandmate for decades. Here’s what to know about their relationship.

Bruce Springsteen and Patti Scialfa attend the 2025 premiere of "Deliver Me From Nowhere."
Bruce Springsteen and Patti Scialfa attend the 2025 premiere of “Deliver Me From Nowhere.”
  • Bruce Springsteen met Patti Scialfa at a New Jersey rock club, the Stone Pony, in the ’80s.
  • Scialfa joined Springsteen’s E Street Band in 1984, and the two got married in 1991.
  • Here’s what we know about their relationship.

The new Bruce Springsteen biopic, “Deliver Me From Nowhere,” portrays The Boss as a tortured genius and unreliable lover — and while that may have been true in the early ’80s, the real-life Springsteen has been happily married for over three decades.

Springsteen and his wife, Patti Scialfa, both grew up in New Jersey. The pair first spoke on the phone when he was 21 and she was 17, according to Springsteen’s 2016 autobiography, “Born to Run.” She answered a newspaper ad seeking background singers for Springsteen’s band, but he told her there was too much traveling involved for a high schooler.

After a few more chance meetings over the years, in 1984, Springsteen saw Scialfa perform at the Stone Pony, a now-famous rock club in Asbury Park, New Jersey. She sang the Exciters’ hit “Tell Him,” and Springsteen said he “fell in love” with her voice.

“We found ourselves standing in a buzzing crowd at the back bar as I introduced myself to her,” he wrote, “and the rest was a long, winding semi-courtship.”

Scialfa joined Springsteen’s E Street Band in 1984

Bruce Springsteen and Patti Scialfa perform together in 1984.
Bruce Springsteen and Patti Scialfa perform together in 1984.

After hearing her sing, Springsteen and Scialfa continued to meet up semi-regularly at the Stone Pony “for a cocktail and a dance,” he wrote.

While preparing for the “Born in the USA” tour, Springsteen invited Scialfa to join his live ensemble as a backing vocalist, guitarist, and keyboardist.

Scialfa made her onstage debut with the E Street Band on June 29, 1984, in Saint Paul, Minnesota. The tour’s namesake album, which quickly became a smash hit and was eventually certified diamond, had been released just a few weeks earlier.

“Through Patti’s addition, I wanted to accomplish two things. One, I wanted to improve our musicality,” Springsteen wrote in his autobiography. “I wanted dependable, well-sung harmony vocals.”

“Two, I wanted my band to reflect my evolving audience, an audience that was becoming increasingly grown-up and whose lives were about men and women,” he added.

Scialfa remains an active member of the E Street Band to this day.

Springsteen met his first wife, Julianne Phillips, that same year

Bruce Springsteen and Julianne Phillips at the third annual Rock & Roll Hall of Fame Awards in 1988.
Bruce Springsteen and Julianne Phillips at the third annual Rock & Roll Hall of Fame Awards.

Springsteen and Phillips were reportedly introduced by their agents in October 1984. He was 35, and she was 24. “We hit it off and began seeing each other regularly,” Springsteen wrote.

Springsteen and Phillips had a whirlwind romance and married in 1985, in Phillips’ hometown of Lake Oswego, Oregon.

At the time, Phillips was a working model and aspiring actor, mostly appearing in music videos and made-for-TV movies.

Despite what Springsteen called a “press feeding frenzy,” the couple kept the details of their relationship relatively private. In his autobiography, Springsteen said he was plagued with fear that he couldn’t make it past two or three years with a partner, since he’d never done it before.

“Following our wedding I was struck by a series of severe anxiety attacks,” he wrote. “I was scared, but I did not want to scare the wits out of my young bride. It was the wrong way to handle it and created a psychological distance at just the moment I was trying to let someone into my life.”

Springsteen and Scialfa fell in love while he was still married to Phillips

Patti Scialfa and Bruce Springsteen perform during the "Tunnel of Love" Tour in 1988.
Patti Scialfa and Bruce Springsteen perform during the “Tunnel of Love” Tour in 1988.

Springsteen’s bond with Scialfa grew stronger during the 1988 “Tunnel of Love Express” tour, performing songs he wrote about his ambivalent and fearful experience as a husband.

“Patti was a musician, was close to my age, had seen me on the road in all of my many guises and viewed me with a knowing eye,” Springsteen wrote in “Born to Run.” “She knew I was no white knight (perhaps a dark gray knight at best), and I never felt the need to pretend around her. Julie had never asked me to either; I just did.”

Their friendship turned into a romance when his wife was away filming on location, leaving him alone in New Jersey. He and Scialfa met up, as Springsteen said, “under my ostensible excuse of working on our ‘duets.'”

“There came a moment when I looked at Patti and saw something different, something new, something I’d missed and hadn’t experienced before,” he wrote. “In my life, Patti is a singularity. So, it started. At first, I told myself it was just ‘a thing.’ It wasn’t. It was the thing.”

Springsteen said he broke the news to Phillips as soon as he came to grips with the depth of his feelings for Scialfa, and they quietly separated. He added that he regretted how he handled their split.

“I placed her in a terribly difficult position for a young girl and I failed her as a husband and partner,” he wrote of Phillips.

Phillips filed for divorce in August 1988, citing irreconcilable differences.

Springsteen and Scialfa have been married since 1991 and share three children

Sam Springsteen, Evan Springsteen, Patti Scialfa, Bruce Springsteen, and Jessica Rae Springsteen attend the 2018 Tony Awards.
Patti Scialfa and Bruce Springsteen, with their kids, Sam, Evan, and Jessica, at the 2018 Tony Awards.

Springsteen and Scialfa moved in together after finishing the “Tunnel of Love” tour in August 1988, eventually settling in California. At first, Springsteen struggled with avoidant habits and wrote that Scialfa was “patient… to a point.”

The couple fought often, and eventually, Scialfa “threw down the gauntlet and laid it out. Stay or go.”

Though he was tempted to retreat to solitude, Springsteen said he couldn’t bear to “throw away the best thing, the best woman, I’d ever known.”

“I stayed,” he wrote. “It was the sanest decision of my life.”

Springsteen and Scialfa welcomed their first child, Evan James, in 1990. They got married the following year at their estate in Beverly Hills.

Their only daughter, Jessica Rae, was born in December 1991. She would go on to become a professional equestrian, winning a silver medal in the team jumping competition at the Tokyo 2020 Olympics in 2021.

The couple welcomed their youngest child, Samuel Ryan, in January 1994. He works as a firefighter in New Jersey.

In 2022, Springsteen and Scialfa became first-time grandparents when Samuel welcomed a daughter with his partner.

Springsteen has also credited Scialfa with teaching him to be a more present parent, instead of prioritizing work.

“We created a life and a love fit for a couple of emotional outlaws,” Springsteen wrote of his wife. “That similarity bound and binds us very close.”

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Vintage photos of offices show how the workplace has changed

1970s office
circa 1970: Women at work in the book-keeping room at the Bank of America, Los Angeles.
  • As more employees return to the office, some are being met with limited space — and bedbugs.
  • While open floorplans are now in style, people used to sit in small cubicles.
  • Offices used to have typing pools with dozens of typewriters. In 2025, we all have laptops.

Thanks to the popularity of shows like “Mad Men” and “Masters of Sex,” people love to see what offices have looked like over the past century … often through dense clouds of cigarette smoke.

Before email, Teams calls, and Slack, messengers wearing roller skates passed notes between office workers, while laptops were preceded by typewriters, calculators, and stacks of paper.

And while some office complexes for major firms today — think Nvidia’s futuristic office in Santa Clara or Apple’s Cupertino headquarters — feature vast atriums filled with trees or outdoor amenities like swimming pools and volleyball courts, some 20th-century office workers were lucky if they got a window.

These vintage photos of offices reveal how far companies have come in regard to technology, interior design, and even safety.

See what your office might have looked like decades ago.

One glaring difference between offices now and in 1940? Cigarettes were everywhere.
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1940: A man in a Press Association and Reuters office having a cigarette while his colleagues work on telegraph machines.

When Gallup polled US adults in 1944, 41% said they smoked — compare that to around 11% of US adults who smoked in 2022, per the CDC.

As such, in the mid-20th century, smoking was common everywhere, from grocery stores to homes to workplaces.

Technically, there are still some states where it’s legal to smoke inside an office — the only federal bans on smoking are on planes or in federal buildings.

However, you’d be hard-pressed to find an office building that allows people to light up at their desks.

Pipes were common sights as well. Today, offices have designated places outside for smoking.
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circa 1930: American scientist Edward Wilber Berry (born. 1875), Dean of John Hopkins University is painting a natural history subject.

The popularity of the traditional tobacco pipe has been steadily decreasing since the ’90s, though they’re making a comeback with hipsters, The Times of London reported in 2024.

Before every desk had a computer, there was more space to spread materials out.
vintage design office
circa 1935: Drawing boards, slide rules, set squares and assorted items in use in a busy design office

This image of a design office in 1935 is a far cry from the tech-heavy workplaces of 2025.

An open-plan office used to look a little different.
The typing pool at the offices of the retailer Marks and Spencer, Baker Street, London, 7th April 1959.
The typing pool at the offices of the retailer Marks and Spencer, Baker Street, London, 7th April 1959.

Now, an open-floor office typically has giant tables with multiple stations at it, not individual desks.

Before electronic stock tickers made it possible to see the stock market in real time, employees printed out the news on ticker tape to distribute.
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circa 1937: Tickertape from New York stock exchange is passed simultaneously to 2000 tickermachines in 320 towns.

The last ticker tape machine was released in 1960 — they were first invented by Thomas Edison in the late 1800s.

Ticker tape has two legacies that live on in 2018. First, the stock prices running along the bottom of your TV screen are still called stock tickers. And second, ticker tape was given a second life when New Yorkers discovered that ticker tape made great confetti.

Ticker-tape parades still happen, but shredded paper is used instead.

It was a lot harder to transcribe calls back then.
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27th October 1960: A Munich secretary simultaneously typing and making a phone call with the aid of the Beoton telephone amplifier.

This secretary appears to be writing down a conversation she’s having with someone on the phone, which she is listening to using a proto-speakerphone device.

Today, there are apps that can record a phone conversation, and headphones mean you don’t need to broadcast the conversation to everyone around you.

That telephone amplifier is also obsolete — most phones now have built-in speakerphones.

As technology advanced, every desk became equipped with its own typewriter.
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circa 1937: A room full of workers testing typewriters before they leave the factory.

The typewriter was invented in 1867 but didn’t become popular until a couple of decades later, during the Industrial Revolution. It became people’s job to record facts and figures, and the typewriter was the easiest way to do that.

They stayed popular for over 100 years.

Bookkeepers used a combination of computers, typewriters, and calculators.
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circa 1970: Women at work in the book-keeping room at the Bank of America, Los Angeles.

If you take a closer look, you might notice that all these bookkeepers are women, a trend that’s still prevalent.

In 2022, 86.7% of bookkeepers were women, according to Data USA, which cited US Census Bureau data, so maybe not everything has changed.

When typewriters became obsolete, offices implemented computers and cubicles, which gave people a little privacy.
Kodak sales reps. work in shared cubicles in close quarters re managing office space; prob. St. Louis
Kodak sales reps. work in shared cubicles in close quarters re managing office space; prob. St. Louis, 1994.

Cubicles first entered our lives in 1968, when they were invented by Robert Propst, who wanted to improve upon the typical open bullpen office. He thought cubicles would increase productivity and give workers privacy.

At first, cubicles flopped. But when companies realized that using cubicles would increase the number of people that could be crammed into a space, they really took off. The ’80s and ’90s were a booming time for cubicles.

Now, many offices have abandoned them in favor of the original open office space — just take a look at the offices of Shopify, DropBox, or even Business Insider.

However, there has been a more recent push to bring cubicles back.

Before email and Slack, some offices communicated via messengers who were given roller skates to speed up the process.
Skating Messenger
An office messenger at a famous New York cable company which has equipped their messengers with roller skates, increasing their delivery speed by 25%.

Probably due to violating dozens of workplace safety protocols, and the advent of computers, roller skating in the office is a thing of the past.

This office had a designated “tea lady” who would walk around providing refreshments.
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Tea lady Alice Bond providing refreshments for office workers, 13th July 1976.

Some offices still offer amazing perks.

Now, everything is digital and located in the cloud. But for years, all important records had to have physical copies.
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Charles Cook operates one of the more elaborate record-keeping machines used by the Federal Social Security Administration in its two blocks of office space in Baltimore, Md., shown in 1936. It handles 80 of the individual records cards a minute.

This machine handled 80 individual record cards a minute — now, data can be uploaded to the cloud in seconds.

Phone booths seem so old-fashioned today.
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Three people make telephone calls from transparent phone booths in a post office in Mannheim, West Germany, Oct. 8, 1959. It is hoped the booth will make the callers more aware of other people waiting and thus shorten their calls.

These transparent ones still look cool, to be clear.

So do typewriters.
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British film scholar and Daily Express film critic Ian Christie in his office, UK, 5th April 1968.

Maybe they’ll come back, though. As Business Insider’s Hannah Towey pointed out in 2021, physical media objects like records, typewriters, and film cameras were all in high demand.

Note the ashtray, rotary phone, and old-fashioned radio — it’s a far cry from what your typical desk looks like now.
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Fashion entrepreneur Irvine Sellar, UK, 26th April 1971. He later developed The Shard skyscraper in London.

It’s impossible to overstate just how different our workspaces used to be just 30 years ago.

It makes you wonder: How different will they be 10, 15, or 30 years from now?

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